The Unending Patience: God's Grace in the Wilderness
- Thad DeBuhr
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NEHEMIAH 30 Day Challenge: DAY 20
Imagine you have a child who, despite all your love, support, and resources, repeatedly lies, sneaks out, and breaks every boundary you set. You pay their bills, you feed them, you keep their room warm, but every few months, they look you in the eye, promise to change, and then immediately do the same destructive thing again. How long would you keep the door open? How long would you keep paying for their needs?
Many of us look at our own lives and see the same pattern. We pray, we commit to change, we feel God's presence, and then, a week later, we fall back into that old habit, that familiar worry, or that destructive pattern.
We feel the shame and the deep, nagging fear that we’ve finally used up God’s grace.
We wonder: Does God's patience with my failures finally have an expiration date?
The prayer of confession in Nehemiah holds the shocking, beautiful answer.
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Setting the Scene: A History Lesson in Unwavering Grace
The verses in Nehemiah chapter 9, verses 9 through 21 are part of a massive public prayer of confession offered by the Levites after the exiles returned to Jerusalem and rebuilt the wall. This prayer provides a crucial lens for understanding God's relationship with His people.
The Uniquely Jewish Context
The Levites were reciting the foundational story of Israel—the Exodus and the Wilderness wanderings. For the original audience, the significance was deeply personal:
The Context of the Exile: The people listening had just returned from Babylonian exile, understood as the ultimate punishment for disobedience. This prayer emphasizes why God bothered to bring them back at all.
The Divine Signature (v. 12, 19): The pillars of cloud and fire were the most intimate and undeniable sign of God’s Shekinah Glory—His dwelling presence. The text states God "did not abandon them" and kept the pillars going after the people rebelled (making the Golden Calf). This is a theological earthquake: God's presence remained in the center of their rebellion.
Miraculous Sustainability (v. 21): The details of Nehemiah chapter 9, verse 21—"Their clothes didn’t wear out, and their feet didn’t swell!"—are tangible proof that God's provision was continuous, supernatural, and utterly independent of the people's worthiness. God sustained them, acting as their cosmic tailor and physician, even while they were actively grumbling.
🧭 Clearing Up Confusion: Where Is God When Things Go Wrong?
The common teaching that "God can't be where sin is" often causes confusion. It incorrectly mixes up two distinct ideas about God:
His Universal Presence: The fact that He exists everywhere at all times.
His Moral Purity: The fact that He is perfectly good and cannot approve of wrongdoing.
The Bible makes a clear distinction: SIN damages the relationship with God, but it does not cause God to physically leave the area.
1. The Separation Caused by Bad Actions
When the Bible says bad actions (sin) separate us from God, it is talking about a broken relationship and a legal problem, not a geographical distance.
A. The Broken Connection (Relational and Legal Separation)
Think of it like a broken promise or contract. When someone breaks a contract, they don't cease to exist, but their relationship with the other party is damaged, and they face legal consequences (judgment) for the broken agreement.
Isaiah chapter 59, verse 2: This passage says, "It's your sins that have cut you off from God."
Plain Meaning: The bad actions act like a barrier that blocks open communication and friendship. God doesn't approve of the actions, so He stops listening in fellowship. If this separation meant God vanished physically, He would have to leave the entire world, since bad actions happen everywhere. The separation is about relationship and justice, not distance.
B. The Unwavering Presence (Spatial and Sovereign)
Despite the damaged relationship, the Bible teaches God's presence is constant and universal.
Psalm chapter 139, verses 7 through 10: The writer asks, "I can never escape from your Spirit! I can never get away from your presence!"
Plain Meaning: This confirms that God is everywhere (omnipresent). You can't run away from Him. His presence remains the powerful, constant backdrop even when people are acting out or living in darkness.
2. The Context of God's Purity: Why He Must Disapprove
This addresses the moral issue—why God cannot simply ignore wrongdoing.
Habakkuk chapter 1, verse 13: The prophet says God is "too pure to open your eyes to evil and cannot tolerate wrongdoing."
The Prophet's Question: Habakkuk wasn't asking if God was physically blind. He was asking, "God, since you are perfectly good, how can you allow this terrible injustice to continue?"
Meaning of "Cannot Tolerate": This means God cannot approve, endorse, or sanction the bad actions. He sees them, but His nature is so absolutely good that He is incapable of siding with, or being indifferent to, evil. This moral purity is the reason He must address injustice and wrongdoing, but also the reason He commits to fixing the problem (redemption).
3. The Ultimate Fix: Jesus Among the Broken
The life of Jesus provides the clearest proof that God does not abandon people who are involved in wrongdoing.
The Conflict (Matthew chapter 9, verses 10 through 13): Religious leaders were upset because Jesus—whom they considered a holy teacher—was eating meals with tax collectors (known for being corrupt) and sinners (people who publicly disregarded moral rules). The leaders believed holy people shouldn't go near "unclean" people.
Jesus' Response: He compared Himself to a physician: "Healthy people don’t need a doctor—sick people do... I have come to call not those who think they are righteous, but those who know they are sinners."
The Principle: Jesus intentionally moved into the problem area to bring healing and restoration. His presence didn't approve of their bad actions; rather, His goodness was the power needed to fix them. A doctor doesn't avoid the infectious patient; the doctor goes to the patient to bring health.
Conclusion: The Lesson from the Desert
The core lesson from Nehemiah chapter 9, verses 19 through 21 proves this point: The people repeatedly made huge mistakes (rebellion), yet God's great goodness made sure He "did not abandon them in the wilderness."
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God's consistent Presence (Cloud/Fire) and Provision (Food/Water), even when people were at their worst, show that His commitment to His promises overrides the immediate judgment deserved by the broken relationship. He stays present to sustain us, making a way for the relationship to eventually be healed.
Questions to Chew on and Discuss:
The Israelites literally asked for a new leader to take them back to slavery in Egypt (Nehemiah chapter 9, verse 17). What is your modern-day "back-to-slavery" moment—that one old, unhealthy pattern (like self-pity, control, or escape) you are tempted to return to even after experiencing freedom?
The Levites highlight God's character traits (Nehemiah chapter 9, verse 17): "a God of forgiveness, gracious and merciful, slow to become angry, and rich in unfailing love." Which of these five attributes is the most challenging for you to truly believe applies to your current, personal failures?
Nehemiah chapter 9, verse 21 mentions that the people's clothes and feet were miraculously sustained for forty years. What is a specific, tangible way—a job, a home, a key relationship, or health—that God has sustained you in a season where you knew you were struggling or rebelling?
Journey Group Discussion Starter:
The Israelites were sustained by God even when they acted arrogantly and refused to obey (Nehemiah chapter 9, verses 16 and 19).
Where in your life right now is God's grace acting as a "pillar of cloud" or "manna"—an absolutely necessary provision that is based solely on His faithfulness, not on your performance?
🛠️ Applying It Today: The Practice of Responding to Grace
The revelation of God’s unending patience—that He sustains us even in our failures—should never lead to apathy ("I can just keep messing up"). Instead, this profound love demands repentant action that flows from genuine gratitude. We respond not by trying harder to earn love, but by trusting the love already given.
Step 1: CONFESS the Ingratitude
Our failures are rarely just simple mistakes; they are often acts of ingratitude toward a God who is actively providing for us every single day. Acknowledge this truth.
🛑 The Wrong Way: Confessing to Justify Your Actions
When we confess to justify ourselves, the focus remains on our own stress, weakness, or environment: "I know I lost my temper, but I was so stressed. I’ll just try harder to control myself next time." This approach treats the failure as a minor behavioral flaw that can be fixed through self-effort.
✅ The Right Way: Confessing to Honor God’s Character
A righteous confession acknowledges the divine contrast: "I confess that even though I see your provision and presence daily, I chose self-will and acted arrogantly, just like my ancestors. Thank you that you have not abandoned me." This moves the focus from personal weakness to God’s unwavering faithfulness.
Step 2: IDENTIFY the Provision
Look for the modern-day equivalents of the "cloud, fire, manna, and unworn clothes" in your present life. Name the tangible ways God is sustaining you—physically, relationally, or spiritually—right now.
🛑 The Wrong Way: Focusing on the Lack
This approach allows doubt to define your reality: "If God really loved me, I wouldn't have this financial problem, this struggle, or this lack of peace." This focuses on the absence of comfort rather than the presence of grace.
✅ The Right Way: Focusing on the Given
This chooses faith over fear: "Even in this season of anxiety, I have a warm bed, a friend who listens, and the assurance of the Holy Spirit (Nehemiah chapter 9, verse 20). I will choose to lean on this daily, active provision, not on my feelings."
Step 3: TAKE a Next Step in Trust
Choose one action—small or large—that demonstrates you are relying on God's sustained power, not your own willpower. This action is the fruit of grace, not the root of salvation.
🛑 The Wrong Way: Trying to Earn It
This is driven by guilt and merit: "I will read my Bible for an hour every day and volunteer five times this week so I feel less guilty about my failure." This uses religious activity as a payment.
✅ The Right Way: Trusting and Obeying
This action is driven by a restored relationship:
Pray: When temptation arises, stop the destructive activity and say a prayer of thanks for His sustaining love, rather than trying to power through it alone.
Encourage: Reach out to the person you are tempted to neglect or judge, trusting God's power will work through your weakness to offer grace.
Serve: Offer five minutes of intentional service to someone in your family or community, acknowledging that all your strength to love comes from Him, as stated in the passage about the Spirit's guidance.ate.
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